Iyaye masu son kai

Iyaye masu son kai
narcissistic abuse (en)
Bayanai
Name (en)	parental narcissism

A narcissistic parent is a parent affected by narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder. Typically, narcissistic parents are exclusively and possessively close to their children and are threatened by their children's growing independence. Narcissistic parents are self-absorbed, often to the point of grandiosity. They also tend to be inflexible and lack the empathy necessary for child raising.

Halaye

Narcissism, kamar yadda aka bayyana a cikin binciken asibiti na Sigmund Freud, ya haɗa da halaye irin su girman kai, girman kai, rauni, tsoron gazawar, tsoron rasa ƙaunar mutane, dogaro da hanyoyin tsaro, kammala, da rikice-rikicen mutum.

Domin kiyaye girman kansu da kuma kare kansu masu rauni, masu son kai suna neman iko da halayen wasu, musamman na 'ya'yansu, waɗanda suke ɗaukar su a matsayin ƙarin girman kansu. Don haka, iyaye masu son kai na iya magana game da "ɗauke da fitilar", kiyaye sunan iyali, ko kuma sa uwa ko uba su yi alfahari.[1] Suna iya zagin 'ya'yansu saboda nuna rauni, kasancewa masu ban mamaki, kasancewa masu son kai, ko rashin cika tsammaninsu.[2] 'Ya'yan masu son kai na koyon yin rawar da suka taka da kuma nuna ƙwarewarsu ta musamman, musamman a bainar jama'a ko ga wasu.[3]

Iyaye masu lalata kansu suna da tsari na buƙatar kasancewa mai da hankali, wuce gona da iri, neman yabo, da kuma sanya yaransu ƙasa. Ana iya amfani da hukunci ta hanyar zargi, zargi ko zamba ta motsin rai, da ƙoƙari na haifar da laifi don tabbatar da bin sha'awar iyaye da kuma ciyar da bukatar su don samar da narcissistic.

Yaran masu son kai

Narcissism yana da alaƙa da juna, tare da iyaye masu son kai waɗanda ke samar da yara masu son kai ko masu son kai.[1][2] Duk da yake iyaye masu amincewa da kansu, ko iyaye masu kyau, na iya ba da damar ci gaban yaro mai cin gashin kansa, iyaye masu son kai na iya amfani da yaron don inganta siffar su.[3][2] Iyaye da ke damuwa da inganta kansu, ko kuma da nunawa da sha'awar yaransu, na iya barin yaron yana jin kamar ɗan tsana ga bukatun motsin rai da ilimi na iyaye.

Wasu batutuwan da aka saba da su a cikin iyaye masu son kai sun samo asali ne daga rashin kulawa mai kyau. Wannan na iya haifar da yaro yana jin komai, jin rashin tsaro a cikin dangantaka ta soyayya, haɓaka tsoro, rashin amincewa da wasu, fuskantar rikice-rikicen ainihi, da haɓaka batutuwan sadaukarwa.